With new years resolutions as a part of secular society tradition; I got to thinking about vows that we all make and some that join religious groups make and what would be the most difficult to maintain in today’s society.
Now we all hear about the high divorce rate with marriages. And I would venture that most people would think that Chasity is the most difficult vow to maintain. However having known many priest in my life I would have to say that sampling would be heavily weighted towards the vow of obedience, not Chasity.
Lets look at the list of vows.
1) A vow/oath – this could be to testify to the truth in a court of law, but it’s also what we make a contract with God as may of us have done in the past “Please God if you do XYZ, then I will do ABC”.
2) Wedding vows – self explanatory.
3) Religious vows:
A) Poverty
B) Chasity
C) Obedience
D) Stability (Benedictines and other monastic orders)
E) Silence
F) Known as the 4th vow for Jesuits – obedience to the Pope
G) Missionaries of Charity (Mother Teresa) to serve the poorest of the poor
Everyone is called to their vocation – single, married or religious life. Of the three I would say that the single life is the most difficult. Society expects you to get married if you don’t chose the religious life, but I certainly believe that God calls some of us to be single for life. This life vocation doesn’t have the support system that the other two vocations offer, but it does allow great freedom to accomplish many things in life that the other vocations can only dream of.
Divorce rates for America at lest are 40% for first timers, 67% for second, and 74% for third or more.
Divorce rates among Christian groups
Denomination (in order of decreasing divorce rate) |
% who have been divorced
|
Non-denominational ** |
34% |
Baptists |
29% |
Mainline Protestants |
25% |
Mormons |
24% |
Catholics |
21% |
Lutherans |
21% |
Barna Research Group -1999 Survey inspires debate over why faith isn’t a bigger factor in marriage
So much for the marriage vow.
Silence as a vow I would think could be the most difficult, but in a monastic setting likely isn’t hard given you have a very selected group of individuals all committed to re-enforcing that vow.
I think perhaps a vow of poverty in this country would be very hard, because our standard of living is much higher then that of third world countries. Even the actual poor (those not taking a vow of poverty) are more well off then the majority of third world people.
But for me I think the vow of stability is likely the most difficult. To select a place to live and then realize that you will never leave that place for the rest of your life. In our mobile society I can’t think of being anchored to a fixed location. I think I would keep silent for life more easily then to be stuck in one place until I die. But certainly there is something to be said for building up a location with strong roots. It also forces you to work out your problems, you can’t transfer to some place else and avoid conflict. It forces you to deal with people and resolve conflict.
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